I wanted to share an inspired thought with you today, a little tip on how to bring what you want to you and become the Manifesting Queen of 2017!
In order to attract what you want in life you must first know what you truly want. The only reason we want material things is because we ‘think’ it’ll make us feel better or good. When we feel this way it indicates that we are out of alignment and we want ‘wholeness’.
In essence all we want in life is wholeness – to FEEL GOOD!
I was brought up as a child with the ‘Game of Life’ as my mentor for what you want or should have… a husband, a family, a house, a job and a car. And wow a car! My mother didn’t even have one of those… when I get a car I’ve really made it!
At the age of 21 I passed my driving test and wow did that feel good! I brought my own car with my OWN savings and I felt accomplished. I had a boyfriend who I knew would eventually propose and his parents so eager to marry him off, offered us a mortgage on a plate to own our first home together. The moving in process took 8 months to get to get to the day of exchange due to one problem or another but the day came when I was to sign on the dotted line…
But I couldn’t do it! I didn’t love him really, and if I’m honest it was only the thought of owning my own home that kept me there! So ashamed and scared I pulled out! Out of the house, out of the relationship. The thought of owning my own home was the BE ALL AND ALL, I thought it was THE thing to have and once I had that I would finally be happy, my life would be fulfilled. NEWS FLASH! Material things without true alignment with what truly fulfills you, does not bring happiness. I had it all there, but it felt flat, full of sadness and a complete anti-climax.
So that’s the first lesson – ‘things’ do not bring happiness. The second lesson I learned is that if you don’t feel good, there’s no point to it. As feeling good is all we really truly want to be/have.
In order to manifest what you want in your life you need to FEEL GOOD in the first place. Like attracts like. It doesn’t really matter how, but the key is to enter the good vibration without an ulterior motive. When you don’t have something and you really want it, you’re so focused on wanting it, that the focus is also on the complete lack of having it, which of course feels horrible. When you say ‘I’m going to start feeling good because I want that house’… the feeling is false because you don’t have the house so you get pulled back. ‘I want that car so I’m going to start feeling good’… ‘oh but I don’t have the car!’ Disappointment starts and you’re pulled right back again.
To feel good you’ve got to be in it without wanting. So this year, do the stuff that makes your heart sing… if coaching makes your heart sing go do that, if dancing makes your heart sing, go do that, if helping others makes your heart sing, go do that! Just make sure you stay in the high vibe.
When you’re in that high vibe, you’re happy, you’re grateful, you’re feeling good and you’re authentically ‘acting as if’ and then the house, the car will be with you BUT you’ll also have so much more.
As we all know happiness does not lie in the material things, it lies within this very moment. That doesn’t mean you should not ‘want’ these other things, go ahead… just don’t make it your primary motive. Make feeling good right now your primary motivation and watch as all the things you ever wanted flow into your world. Let go of the outcome and focus on feeling amazing!
Jen Hall is Business Clarity Coach for Coaches, Consultants & Experts who want to become Unrivalled Go-To Experts. Jen not only gets you clear on your micro-niche, message and what makes you unique and desirable, but she helps you to define what makes you an irrefutable offer to the market so you can position yourself as a high-end 'must have' option for your prospects. She is a Multi-Award Winning Speaker and Best Selling Author of Expert Unrivalled.